When Holly Brockwell wrote about the fact that she doesn’t want to have children, she knew her stance was controversial. But she never expected the sheer volume of backlash and abuse that would force her offline.
After 36 hours, she’s back online and set on fighting the trolls for her right – for all women’s rights – to express their opinions without fear.
“As a woman, there are four little words I can say that invite more condescension than almost any others: ‘I don’t want children’,” she wrote, before explaining that she’s tired of having to explain her stance to friends and family.
“There’s nothing about creating another human that appeals to me. That’s an emotional thing, and translating it into rational reasons takes something away from its strength.”
Brockwell has decided that she wants to be sterilised, but has faced numerous obstacles in trying to secure the procedure.
“I don’t need reversible contraception. There’s a 10-minute keyhole operation that can solve this problem for good, and I can’t believe that at the age of almost 30 in 2015, I’m still having to fight to get it.”
“We can choose to get pregnant at 16, but not to decline motherhood at 29. It seems our decisions are only taken seriously when they align with tradition.”
Before long she was getting messages to her personal email, Twitter and Facebook accounts, and even her LinkedIn and Instagram. She even received calls to her mobile.
“People sought me out to say they were glad I haven’t reproduced, that they’re pleased there won’t be any more people like me in the world. They cast aspersions on my mum and said I need psychological help,” Brockwell told the BBC in a follow up report.
“One man said he wouldn’t want to have sex with me (except he was far less polite about it). Some said the solution is for me to stay celibate which suggests they only ever have sex when they want babies, which is ludicrous.”
“All the trolls want is to stop women like me from having a voice – we can’t let them get away with that. It’s so important that people who feel this way speak up – how else are we going to be taken seriously?
“If no one hears from people who’ve carefully considered their decision and know their own minds, and even more importantly, people who said they didn’t want kids in their twenties and feel exactly the same way in their sixties, then they’ll continue to make ignorant comments and refuse treatment.
“Since I’ve written about it, so many people have got in touch to say they’re really glad someone’s speaking out for them, that it’s helped them. And that makes the trolling totally worth it.”
Source – huffingtonpost.co.uk